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Counselling in Victoria, BC
Carl Haynes, MA (Cand.)
Accepting new individuals for counselling in Victoria, BC & online Across BC
Book a free Full session
Free 20 minute virtual consultations, Free 1st full session & then $35 per session.
Master’s Level Intern Counsellor
Areas of focus
Anxiety
Depression
Processing shame
Trauma
Men, masculinity & mental health
Reconnection to self
Self compassion & self love
Supporting survivors of sexualized violence
Living full emotional lives, emotional regulation & expression
“I believe healing begins with understanding ourselves more fully, our emotions, patterns, relationships, and the experiences that shaped us. My role is to bring curiosity, warmth, and empathy while creating a space where you can explore and reconnect with yourself more deeply. Whether you are carrying trauma, anxiety, depression, shame, grief, or simply a feeling of being stuck, I offer a space where you do not have to hold it all alone.”
Individual Counselling: Free 1st session & then $35 per session.
Carl’s Therapeutic Frameworks & Specializations
Carl draws from a diverse range of proven therapeutic modalities, including:
Humanistic Approach
Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)
Somatic Experiencing
Strength-Based Therapy
Person Centered Therapy
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Ready to take the next step? Book a free session with Carl today.
carl’s Story
I have been lucky to call the island home for over twenty years living in W̱SÁNEĆ and lək’wəŋən territory after moving here at age 6 with my parents and two older brothers from George Town, Ontario where I was born. Today I live with my wife who lives with chronic illness, two cats and ten chickens.
From a young age I struggled with depression, anxiety and undiagnosed ADHD. For a long time this was something I mostly faced alone. I found it hard to find people I felt safe enough to open up to and struggled to ask for help. Those experiences shaped how I understand what it feels like to struggle quietly, and how meaningful it is to have even one person in your corner.
My experience with my own struggles and supporting friends who had experienced sexualized violence brought me to volunteer and then work with the Anti-Violence Project.
There for two and a half years I worked in consent education and facilitated their weekly men’s peer support group. In this work I saw just how deeply our wellbeing is connected to each other and deepened my understanding of the systems that perpetuate the harm and isolation that is prevalent today. Doing this work I knew I wanted to commit my life to helping people heal and connect and applied for my counselling masters.
Whether it was men living in rigid norms of masculinity or people traumatized by sexualized violence the pattern I saw and worked with in people was disconnection. Disconnection from parts of themselves they had to hide and suppress to belong. Memories that are too painful to sit with but lie just under the surface. Emotions they push down that don’t disappear but sit in a pressure cooker releasing without warning. And ultimately disconnection from each other and community.
This has informed my view of healing as work of reconnection to our whole authentic selves - underneath the social conditioning, survival tactics, and trauma- and ultimately reconnection with each other and the earth.
Carl’s Approach to Counselling:
To me healing is a process of loving reconnection with our emotions, our history, our body and every part of who we are. We always bring all that we are and have experienced to each moment but when emotions are suppressed, and parts of us and our memories are not integrated, we can feel disconnected and a lack of control. I want to help you reconnect with yourself, all that you are and feel.
My therapeutic approach is trauma informed, compassionate, non-judgemental and based in building connection and trust. I believe that you and your feelings make sense, even if you can not make sense of it all right now.
I have particular interest in working with trauma and the many ways it shows up and shapes our lives. You may not be coming in with a label or idea of what is weighing on you just that something is wrong, that is welcome too. We can explore whatever is weighing on you even if it is just a feeling of being stuck and wanting support.
Previously I have worked in men’s work, consent education and peer support including experience working with gender diverse folks, survivors of sexualized violence, LGBTQIA2S+ folks, folks who use substances and people with chronic illness.
Everyone is welcome here and every part of you is welcome here. I would be honoured to join you in your healing journey.
Education
Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology, Yorkville University (in progress)
Bachelor of Commerce, University of Victoria
TRAINING
Mental Health First Aid
Restorative Justice Victoria Volunteer Training
Professional Memberships & Affiliations
Student Member, British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors (BCACC)# S02791
Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA) – Application pending